We seem to be approaching a time where we can’t talk about pregnancy, birth or parenting at all unless it fits within the confines of “normal”. Great article from Bellabirth about the various taboos of motherhood.

Beautiful Heart

I think that is important, to be mindful of how others feel. It is also important to recognise that how others feel is not our responsibility. If you feel joy, express it. You’re not saying “I am better than you because I had a good experience”, you are saying “I had a good experience, and I feel happy”. Perhaps you can even help those who might feel upset, by asking them to talk about their experience. When they have resolved their own experience, your experience won’t upset them. They might feel sad for what ‘might’ have been, or could not be, but do we really help by suppressing our own joy for concern that it might upset another…

this is fast becoming a taboo in our society. We can’t talk about our lost babies, because it might upset someone or make them feel uncomfortable, we can’t post a photo of…

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